It’s a bit unexpected. I mean, why do I still find myself seeking external validation, even as a male escort who gets paid to be with beautiful women. Sounds stupid, right? I have the best job ever! You’d think after all this, I’d be totally confident and secure. But the truth is, it’s a journey, and it’s a lot more complicated than it seems.
Chasing That Validation High
You see, I used to believe my worth was tied to what others thought of me—whether it was the attention from gorgeous clients, compliments, or just knowing I was desired. That approval felt amazing, like a rush I couldn’t get enough of. But it was like trying to fill a bucket with a hole in the bottom—no matter how much praise I got, it never quite filled the emptiness inside.
The Temporary Fix of External Praise
Being paid to have sex with beautiful women might sound like the ultimate validation, but it’s actually just a surface-level boost. The applause fades, the texts stop, and suddenly you’re left wondering, “Is this all there is?” External validation is like a quick hit of happiness and dopamine that disappears as soon as the spotlight moves on. It’s busy work for the ego, but it never touched the deeper parts of who I am.
Turning Inward: The Real Work
Eventually, I realized I had to stop chasing the next compliment, next job, next title, next promotion, or next whatever and start looking inward. Through some serious soul-searching, therapy, and moments of self reflection, I began to discover that true confidence and happiness does not come from others—it comes from accepting and loving myself, flaws and all. That’s where the real power lies. Acceptance is (and always has been) the answer.
The Freedom of Self-Acceptance
Learning to accept myself fully has been a game-changer. It’s not about needing validation from anyone else anymore; it’s about knowing my worth no matter what. That kind of peace is something no external praise can give. It’s deeper, steadier, and honestly, way more satisfying.
So Here’s What I’ve Learned
Seeking external validation is tempting—it feels good in the moment. But chasing it forever? That’s a trap. True fulfillment comes from within, from embracing who you really are without needing constant approval. For me, that’s been the hardest but most rewarding lesson. So if you’re out there feeling the same way, know you’re not alone—and the journey inward is absolutely worth it.
Here’s to finding that quiet confidence and peace that’s been inside us all along.
Wesley James - Premier Companion 