Author Archives: Wesley James

So, You’re Thinking About Hiring a Male Escort? Let’s Talk.

First off—no judgment here. Whether you’re newly single, craving some no-strings fun, or just curious about what it’s like to be with a man who focuses on you… I get it. The idea can be fun, nerve-wracking, and maybe a little taboo. But before you dive in head first, let’s break it down. First ThingsContinue reading “So, You’re Thinking About Hiring a Male Escort? Let’s Talk.”

Understanding Female Ejaculation: The Science Behind “Squirting”

Female ejaculation, or “squirting,” is a topic that has sparked curiosity, debate, and a fair amount of misinformation. Despite the intrigue surrounding it, there’s still a lot to learn about why and how it occurs. What is Female Ejaculation? Female ejaculation refers to the expulsion of fluid from the urethra during sexual arousal or orgasm.Continue reading “Understanding Female Ejaculation: The Science Behind “Squirting””

Unconventional Sex and Beauty in Saigon

It was a hot day in Saigon after of a thrilling 7-day tour across the country. With a few days to myself, I found myself exploring the local dating apps, excited for some adult fun and play. The prospect of fun intrigued me, but beyond that, I am genuinely intrigued by the dating culture inContinue reading “Unconventional Sex and Beauty in Saigon”

5 Essential Tips for Healthy Open Relationships

In a world where traditional relationship norms are evolving, open relationships have become a topic of interest among the talking heads, and even my close friends and relatives. Open relationships are more common than you think if you define any sex outside of marriage to be non-monogamous. If you are on my blog you likelyContinue reading “5 Essential Tips for Healthy Open Relationships”

The Potential Wellness Benefits of Yoni Massage: A Closer Look

A couple years ago I was introduced to the idea of yoni massage. A relationship coach friend (Sara Tang) asked me to join her podcast where she was interviewing a well known mindful intimacy practitioner in APAC, Viv Kan. Sara wanted a male perspective and I was happy to learn more. I thought “yoni” wasContinue reading “The Potential Wellness Benefits of Yoni Massage: A Closer Look”

Redefining Disability and Celebrating Sexual Empowerment

Years ago I had a client (Melissa) with a disability which did not allow her to walk. She was confined to a wheel chair but this did not stop her from enjoying life. Melissa was in her 20s, living in Australia, and had a successful career. I met her at a local bar to getContinue reading “Redefining Disability and Celebrating Sexual Empowerment”

A Family Affair

After a few serious posts, I thought I would give you guys something a little more juicy. I don’t want to give away the story in the title so please, read on! I have been involved in the swinger/lifestyle scene for many years, starting in Chicago and then around the world in the various placesContinue reading “A Family Affair”

Empowerment and Healing: Understanding the Complexities of Seeking Connection After Trauma

Warning: this post discusses rape and trauma A few years ago I was at a bar hanging out with some friends of mine. We were watching some jazz from a local group. Another friend of ours was singing, entertaining in the way that she does (which can be quite confrontational, especially for jazz!). It wasContinue reading “Empowerment and Healing: Understanding the Complexities of Seeking Connection After Trauma”

Building Genuine Connections: The Key to Healthy Intimacy

All relationships are unique, requiring genuine connections and vulnerability. Intimacy goes beyond sex, involving acceptance, open communication, and respect for individual experiences. Comparison and competition in intimacy are futile. Continuous communication, mutual learning, and self-care are vital for healthy relationships. It’s about connection, respect, and self-truth, not finding a savior.